How to Make Friends When You Move to a New Place

If you have read my blog before, you would know that I have relocated around half a dozen times even before I had hit 21. Naturally, this had some benefits, but the first few days were mostly terrible. But no matter how I messed up at a location, I always got a chance to start afresh at the new location. However, the biggest nightmare for a child is to feel lonely. Having had to move so many times meant that by the time I made any friends in one place, I had to give it all up and move to another.

Like any normal kid, I have spent innumerable sleepless nights crying over having no friends and getting picked at new schools and new neighborhoods. But, I was smart enough to find a solution. After facing repeated failures and much trial and error, I have finally found the secret to making friends. And trust me, it can literally change your life. It doesn’t matter whether you are a kid or an adult. You will need these tips. So stay tuned and read ahead.

Do not ever break contact with old friends. If you do not have people with whom you can talk and share, you can become desperate for friendship. This will take you on a mindless hunt for friends at your new location, and more often than not, lead to disappointments. Everything takes time, and it will be some time before you forge friendships at the new location. So, try and keep in touch with old friends as much as possible, even after you make new ones.

Find yourself. No, this is not some useless crap about philosophy. I mean, find what you like, love or enjoy doing. It is easy to become friends with people who have similar interests. If you are good at a particular game, then you can join the school or a local team. If you enjoy exercising or working out, a gym would be a good place for both exercising as well as meeting new people.

Overcome your fear of rejection. Yes, it will happen. You will be turned down. It can happen on the first meeting or the tenth. People are complicated and behave in ways that are not always easy to understand. If someone snubs you, then ignore them and work towards finding new friends.

If you are in a job, you can’t afford to be lazy about making friends like you could have done in college. You don’t get to meet so many people on a regular basis on the job, and you will mostly interact with the same limited number of people. If you want to be friends with them, you have to approach them as early as possible in your new job. Talk about common interests, or even work related things in detail, until both of you become comfortable with each other. If you like talking to them, then don’t hide it. They deserve to know.

Welcome to my website….and my blog!

As you are reading this, and getting to see what I have to say, and there hasn’t been much content provided yet, you will realize that Weiss Lake Crappie Guide will surpass your expectations of what you were thinking you’d take away from here and leave you in a much more positive and happy state of being.

So, enjoy and get as much out of this site as you can!

It’s all in a name

To begin, you may wonder how I came up with the name.  Well, I’m not a Weiss and I don’t live on a lake.  But one of my fondest memories as a kid was visiting this awesome lake in Wisconsin with my best friend’s family .  Oh, his name was Mike Weiss.  And there just so happens to be a story that I won’t bore you with of when he tried to lead us this ridiculously long hike around the lake in the woods, getting us lost and missing dinner.  Technically, we didn’t get home until close to midnight.  Thus, Weiss Lake Crappie Guide!

(This isn’t the lake, but reminds me of it.)

Even to this day, I wonder what happened to Mike.  We lost touch after I moved away just before high school.  I visited once and then we drifted.  You ever have that kind of relationship, where you have someone you’d love to try and find and see where they are in life?  I have a number of them.  That’s because I moved so much as a kid.  I was discussing this with my wife and I think by the time I was 21 I had moved at least that many times.  Now, many were in the same city onlyt to a new home.  But that counts!  I bounced between the Chicago area, Memphis and Connecticut my entire life.

What would be home?

It’s where the heart is.  ACK!  Sorry, I couldn’t resist.  I’d say that home is probably around Chi-Town.  Only because I lived there a number of times and with the most amount of consecutive years.  However, the place that I would really consider home is my grandparents house in Memphis.  Because we never stayed in one place long enough to grow roots, it was the time spent every summer at my great grandfather’s pool (my great grandparents and grandparents lived next door to each other).  It’s weird, because it’s also the house my mom grew up in and hasn’t really changed much in 60 years.  CRAZY RIGHT?!  Also crazy is the amount of “stuff” one can collect over that amount of time.  Literally, closets of photo albums and crochetted things.  There must have been at least 100 miles of yarn up in that joint.

Back on track…cuz I tend to do a tangent thingy here and there.

Acutally, I do believe that this is a good place to pause.  We’ll hit other areas of my life later….As this is new to me, I’m not quite sure the nature of what a blog should be.  I guess it will evolve as it goes.

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